My entire life, I've been surrounded by successful
relationships. My parents are just as in love with one another as the day they
met. My grandparents will celebrate their 50th wedding
anniversary this month. My best friend has
lived with her boyfriend in Sweden for years. So what do all of these very
different unions have in common?
To get to the bottom of it, I asked many couples why they
think their
relationships work. Everyone listed off a few different reasons, but they all
stated one fact that was the same: they talk to their significant others. I
mean really talk to
each other and hear what their partners have to say. So what do all content
couples do
every day? It's very simple.
Happy couples
communicate with each other.
Constant
communication seems so obvious, but it can easily slip through the cracks. In
order to keep your relationship healthy and happy, there's three things you
need to do to communicate successfully.
1. Express
your needs and feelings.
There's no
way for your partner to know what you want out of your relationship if you
don't say so. Make sure to clearly express how you are feeling — whether that
be happy or upset — so that you and your partner are on the same page. Your
significant other is not a mind reader, so it's up to you. You may learn
something new about each other.
2. Be
totally honest.
The moment
you start lying is the moment things go wrong. If you can't be honest with the
person you love, who can you be honest with? Go beyond being open about the
dynamic of your relationship; talk about a bad day at work or a friend who hurt
your feelings. The more experiences you share, the closer you will become.
3. Don't
just speak — make sure to listen.
There are
two people in a relationship. Your partner should be communicating with you
too. Be a good listener and make sure to take in everything your SO is saying.
You are not perfect, so if you have to make some adjustments for your
relationship work, be open-minded.
If you
practice communication every day, you will see that your relationship will be stronger than
ever. Sometimes it's hard to do, but the greatest challenges are always worth
the end result. Here's to many more happy anniversaries with your significant
other!
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